There are many sayings that I’ve heard that tell us to never give up; I’m sure most people would agree with them and say that it’s a good mentality to have. I also used to agree and think that if I never give up, then the outcome that I want will eventually come to fruition. Unfortunately, that is not always true. Sometimes, we need to just give up.
That last sentence might sound very degrading especially when we have dreams that we consistently work hard to achieve, however I will give an example of why it is true. In a game of poker, players basically put bets into the table depending on how good they think their cards are and the chances that they think they’ll win. They also have a choice of folding, disposing, of their cards if they do not feel that their cards are worth betting on. The players who keep their cards must then put in bets that match the highest bet made each round, and of course whoever had the best cards in the end takes all the bets made by every player. You might be able to see that if every player never gave up and kept putting more money into the pot, that they will most likely lose all their money very quickly unless they are very lucky. Therefore, this is an example of when we have to give up. This analogy might sound like it has nothing to do with daily situations, however I think that it does.
Sometimes we can invest a lot of time or effort or money into something that we want, with the mentality to never give up. Therefore that will mean that we will continue to charge head down by investing more of our time or effort or money into the cause, until eventually we may run out of resources. I think that giving up is the hardest thing to do sometimes. Looking back, we will see everything we have put into it and it will just seem such a shame to let it all go. That is why I think being able to let go of things is probably just as big an achievement as being able to bring something to completion.
Of course, I am not saying that we should just give up on everything as soon as there is a small hint that it might not work, but I am saying that sometimes instead of blocking out everything except for the target, we should stop and look around once in a while. This is easier said than done, as when we have a goal in mind that we think is the best for us then it can be difficult to be convinced otherwise. So perhaps the most difficult part isn’t giving up, but being able to see that we have gone down the wrong path, and that we must stop and go back before we are able to really move forward in the direction that is right for us.