What is the Best Form of Communication?

I think communication can be separated into three different categories: visual, audio and text based. From my observation, visual and text based conversations seem to be the most popular forms at the moment, but are they necessarily the best?

Audio communication is the most difficult form in my opinion. This is because I usually like to have a visual connection when communicating. This probably explains why I rarely call anyone unless it is urgent. Although some may see this is probably a deeper form of communication compared to an instant message, as you can hear the other person’s voice, I feel that you don’t get the full picture as you are not able to see them. Therefore what they sound like may not be a true reflection of who they are or what they’re thinking.

Visual communication covers meeting someone face to face or over a video chat. I think this is the most personal and intimate form of communication, as you are able to hear their voice and see their emotions physically and so extends on audio communication. Sometimes, when communicating to someone in another form, it may be difficult to detect the emotions they are feeling. This might be why very personal conversations are often had face to face. However it is not always easy to communicate this way, as with interviews. There is the pressure of time when communicating this way, and hesitations or mistakes cannot be easily fixed or disguised like with text based communication.

Text based communication covers some of the most popular forms of communication nowadays, such as WhatsApp, Facebook and Twitter. I think the reason for its popularity is due to its simplicity and practicality. Most people can send a message on one of these social media platforms from anywhere and at any time. Also, as many people almost always have their phone with them, they receive messages pretty much as soon as the other person sends it. However I think that due to the ease of sending an instant message, communication this way has lost a lot of its emotion. Of course, people are still able to have deep conversations this way, but quite often when we receive a message we might in the middle of something else and we will then only spend a split second to read and reply to it. Ask someone what the last message they received was about without looking at their phone and they probably don’t remember, or they probably at least need time to remember.

This does not mean that I think text based communication is the worst form though. This is because it also covers letters. Letters or notes are often used in films to portray a very meaningful form of communication, especially when they’re hand written. This is probably because hand writing a letter takes the most time out of all the forms of communication, and also because it is often clear how much time and effort someone spends on it by their handwriting, amount of writing and contents. Perhaps being a physical object also makes it more special. However the reason I think text based communication can be the best form of communication is because it never goes away if you don’t want it to. If you receive a letter or even an instant message, you are able to keep it forever and, in essence, a hard-copy of the memory is saved. Even memories of the most special face to face or phone conversations can fade, but re-reading a conversation in text form can reignite a memory.

Change

Many people fear change; fearing the unknown and wanting things to stay the way they are used to. Unfortunately change is inevitable and happens to almost everything and everyone.

I usually welcome change. I see it as an opportunity for innovation to occur: opening doors to achieve more and be better; however this is not always the case. Sometimes being accustomed to the same thing over a long period of time will make change sound disruptive or even unnecessary. ‘If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it’ is a phrase that is used quite often in this context, and although this is true for many situations, it doesn’t allow the opportunity for something to develop and improve.

The universe has shown us that change happens naturally. Not much, if anything at all, stays the same forever. Although I usually try my best to welcome change in many situations there is one type of change that I am most afraid of. That is, when people change. This is because people can change in a way that is unpredictable and on a large magnitude. Some people change more dramatically than others, but rarely does someone stay as exactly the same person as they were five or ten years ago.

I just think that it’s a shame sometimes; how the person I once knew is no longer the same. I have experienced this enough times to now worry about almost everyone I know changing, but I worry the most about how I have changed. I understand that it’s inevitable that everyone changes and that change is not always negative. In fact there are many people who change for the better, however, I am friends with people because I value their personality or their core values. When that changes in a person then sometimes it seems as if I have to start again with them; get to know them again.

I think the biggest period of change in someone’s life is during their teenage years. Not only physical change but mental. I have mentioned before in a previous post that the teenage years are a time to try new things and find out who we really are. This can open new doors and take us in a completely new direction; change who we are completely.

I think I’m quite a nostalgic person, so I always wonder how parents accept the change in their children. Parents see the biggest change in a person: from being completely dependent on them to being a grown adult who no longer needs their parents. I guess there are some parents who find it difficult to accept, and are very protective of their children even when they are capable of being independent. If I am to become a parent I think that the most difficult part for me to accept will be to realise that my child is no longer a child.

I think that is also my problem when it comes to seeing the people around me change. I think I need to accept that change happens in everyone, for good and for bad. At the end of the day, even if they do not seem like the same person I first met, they are still the same person, but nature is just telling me that time has moved on and I need to as well.