Many people fear change; fearing the unknown and wanting things to stay the way they are used to. Unfortunately change is inevitable and happens to almost everything and everyone.
I usually welcome change. I see it as an opportunity for innovation to occur: opening doors to achieve more and be better; however this is not always the case. Sometimes being accustomed to the same thing over a long period of time will make change sound disruptive or even unnecessary. ‘If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it’ is a phrase that is used quite often in this context, and although this is true for many situations, it doesn’t allow the opportunity for something to develop and improve.
The universe has shown us that change happens naturally. Not much, if anything at all, stays the same forever. Although I usually try my best to welcome change in many situations there is one type of change that I am most afraid of. That is, when people change. This is because people can change in a way that is unpredictable and on a large magnitude. Some people change more dramatically than others, but rarely does someone stay as exactly the same person as they were five or ten years ago.
I just think that it’s a shame sometimes; how the person I once knew is no longer the same. I have experienced this enough times to now worry about almost everyone I know changing, but I worry the most about how I have changed. I understand that it’s inevitable that everyone changes and that change is not always negative. In fact there are many people who change for the better, however, I am friends with people because I value their personality or their core values. When that changes in a person then sometimes it seems as if I have to start again with them; get to know them again.
I think the biggest period of change in someone’s life is during their teenage years. Not only physical change but mental. I have mentioned before in a previous post that the teenage years are a time to try new things and find out who we really are. This can open new doors and take us in a completely new direction; change who we are completely.
I think I’m quite a nostalgic person, so I always wonder how parents accept the change in their children. Parents see the biggest change in a person: from being completely dependent on them to being a grown adult who no longer needs their parents. I guess there are some parents who find it difficult to accept, and are very protective of their children even when they are capable of being independent. If I am to become a parent I think that the most difficult part for me to accept will be to realise that my child is no longer a child.
I think that is also my problem when it comes to seeing the people around me change. I think I need to accept that change happens in everyone, for good and for bad. At the end of the day, even if they do not seem like the same person I first met, they are still the same person, but nature is just telling me that time has moved on and I need to as well.